Healing Honeys with Louise Rumball 224 - Getting The Avoidant To Choose You Is Not A Flex
Sep 15, 2025
Dive into the reality of chasing avoidant relationships that feel like an addictive high. Discover why intense chemistry often misleads us and why the quest for validation from avoidant partners usually leads to heartbreak. Explore the psychology behind avoidant attachment patterns and learn how they manipulate your emotions. Get practical tips to break the cycle of self-abandonment, set better standards for intimacy, and prioritize emotional availability in your life. It's time to reclaim your happiness!
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Hooked On A Toxic High
- Louise describes a past intense, addictive connection that felt like a drug and consumed her nervous system.
- Years later she discovered the person remained emotionally avoidant and unchanged, illustrating the pattern's persistence.
Chemistry Can Mask Trauma
- Strong chemistry doesn't predict someone's capacity for emotional intimacy or long-term commitment.
- Such chemistry often reflects your unhealed trauma and a dysregulated nervous system, not true love.
Avoidance Is A Nervous System Wiring
- Avoidant people learned early that emotions were unsafe and rewired their nervous systems to protect themselves.
- That disconnection blocks emotional attunement and makes genuine intimacy impossible without healing.