Episode 126: Restoring Wonder & Play in Intimacy—Navigating Sexual Brokenness, Safety, and Vulnerability with Therapist Sam Jolman

Oct 24, 2024

In this engaging discussion, Sam Jolman, a licensed professional counselor specializing in men’s issues and sexual trauma recovery, shares invaluable insights about intimacy and healing. He emphasizes the importance of safety and trust in relationships and offers advice for having meaningful conversations about sexuality with children. Sam also highlights a surprising statistic about what kids crave regarding sex education. This conversation is a treasure trove of wisdom on navigating sexual brokenness and fostering a playful, vulnerable connection.

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Intro

00:00 • 2min

Healing and Open Conversations: Navigating Sexuality and Trauma

01:55 • 5min

Navigating Intimacy and Sexuality

06:36 • 6min

Playfulness in Intimacy

12:20 • 6min

Navigating Sexuality and Intimacy

18:18 • 12min

Exploring Awe and Desire in Human Connection

30:45 • 4min

Navigating Fear and Intimacy

34:38 • 9min

Nurturing Intimacy through Vulnerability and Self-Discovery

43:08 • 3min

Did you know that by adulthood, most people have experienced some form of sexual wounding?

Today's conversation with Sam Jolman, therapist and author of the new book, "The Sex Talk You Never Got," is one of my absolute all-time favorites. Why? It truly surprised me.

It’s so rare to find a nuanced conversation about sex—especially in a world where we’re constantly tugged between a reductive view of “purity” and an equally reductive sense of “permissiveness.”

This conversation is packed with absolute gems—there’s depth, wisdom, and healing in every moment that’s relevant to all of us, no matter our stories.

Here’s what we dive into:

- How to establish safety, consent, and trust in intimate relationships

- An eye-opening statistic from Harvard about what kids long for from their parents on the topic of sex

- How to have a truly meaningful “sex talk” with your kids

- What God actually desires from us when it comes to sex

- Sam's advice for those who’ve experienced sexual wounding or brokenness and want to begin the healing process

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