091: Jealousy in Non-Monogamy: Diving Deeper, Understanding It, How to Manage It and Co-Creating With Your Partner with Kathy Labriola

In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with author Kathy Labriola, who has written 4 books on polyamory, including a life-changer for Vee: The Jealousy Workbook. 

What inspired The Jealousy Workbook? (3:18)

Jealousy in ethical non-monogamy vs. monogamy. (7:05)

Core beliefs and how they affect us in relationships. (8:32)

"Signifiers" which instill confidence in partners. (11:37)

Where does jealousy stem from? (14:07)

Jealousy vs envy: defining and differentiating them. (17:17)

Unpacking the emotions integral to jealousy. (21:33)

Practical strategies to manage jealousy in the moment. (30:24)

Figuring out the root cause of jealousy: the relationship, you, or a little bit of both? (44:39)

Doing the internal work to overcome jealousy: understanding your attachment style and how it affects your level of jealousy in different relationships. (49:06)

Conversations to have with your partner. (55:10)

Phobia vs engineering methods to mitigate jealousy. (1:01:27)

How to support a partner who is feeling jealous. (1:06:20)

Final "nuggets of wisdom". (1:13:43)

Find Kathy:
Kathylabriola.com

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