Sex and the Psyche S1E4: Episode 4: Mismatched Libidos - Why This Happens and How To Solve It
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Oct 5, 2022 Explore the complexities of mismatched libidos and the dynamics behind them. Discover how emotional connections and personal responsibility play crucial roles in arousal. Hear Kim's insights from a playful weekend with her husband George, and how their interactions shifted energy. Learn about the importance of authentic consent versus obligation in intimacy. The discussion also touches on the value of scheduled 'sex dates' and practical touch strategies to enhance desire. Finally, George shares his perspective on navigating these changes.
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Sex Often Becomes The Sole Connection
- Mismatched libidos aren't just about biology; they're about how partners use sex to feel connection.
- Broadening emotional and affectionate connection reduces pressure on sex to be the sole connector.
Broaden Connection Beyond Intercourse
- Do broaden how you connect: emotionally, affectionately, intellectually, socially, and spiritually.
- Do create space for authentic yeses and allow no so consent stays real.
Own Your Arousal To Increase Desire
- Taking responsibility for your own arousal feels empowering and becomes contagious.
- Generating and sending desire to your partner increases felt desirability more than frequency alone.
