Betrayal Trauma Recovery: How To Heal From The Hurt with Debi Silver
Mar 15, 2024
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Debi Silber, an expert on betrayal trauma and healing, discusses the 5 stages of betrayal and how to heal from the hurt. Topics include symptoms of betrayal trauma, trauma responses triggered by betrayal, coping mechanisms, and steps to become the best version of yourself.
Betrayal trauma can trigger a trauma response leading to symptoms affecting self-worth and relationships.
Addressing unhealed betrayal trauma is crucial due to its lasting physical, mental, and emotional effects.
Navigating through trauma healing stages involves acknowledging impact, setting boundaries, and gradually healing for growth.
Deep dives
Understanding Betrayal Trauma: Symptoms and Trauma Response
Betrayal trauma can lead to a trauma response in the body, causing a range of symptoms such as questioning relationships, feeling stuck in a trauma response, and experiencing physical, mental, and emotional challenges. With symptoms like low energy, sleep issues, extreme fatigue, overwhelm, anger, and anxiety, individuals may have lasting effects from betrayal. The trauma response of betrayal feels intentional and deeply personal, affecting self-worth, trust, and relationships. Recognizing and addressing these symptoms are crucial for healing from betrayal trauma.
Identifying Prolonged Effects of Betrayal Trauma
Prolonged effects of betrayal trauma can manifest in physical health issues like digestive problems, weight changes, and fatigue, alongside mental challenges such as overwhelming feelings, lack of focus, and shock. Emotionally, individuals may struggle with extreme sadness, anger, anxiety, and trust issues, affecting their daily lives and relationships. Unaddressed betrayal trauma can lead to long-term symptoms, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and healing from the deep impact of betrayal.
Moving through Trauma Healing Stages
Navigating through the stages of trauma healing involves progressing from shock and trauma to finding a new normal and eventually experiencing healing, rebirth, and a new worldview. Individuals in stage three may be stuck in coping mechanisms, denial, or emotional avoidance to numb the pain of betrayal. Acknowledging the impact of betrayal, working towards self-love, setting boundaries, and gradually healing can lead to transformative growth and a profound shift towards healing.
Recognizing Unhealed Betrayal and Taking Action
Unhealed betrayal can manifest in various aspects of life, including relationships, work, and health, leading to patterns of repeat betrayals, barriers to trust, and self-sabotage behaviors. Reaching a point of recognizing stuckness, emotional numbness, or coping mechanisms like avoidance or distraction signifies the need for healing from past betrayals. By asking specific questions, reflecting on future scenarios, and considering the consequences of inaction, individuals can begin their journey towards healing and growth.
Beginning the Trauma Healing Journey
Embarking on the trauma healing journey involves building a foundation of regulation, opening up to stored trauma, and addressing the deep-rooted pain and shock within the body. Recognizing trauma symptoms like brain fog, inflammation, and decision fatigue can signal the body's need for healing and support. Establishing safety, exploring trauma manifestation in the body, and implementing steps to open up and heal from trauma can lead to transformative healing and a pathway towards aliveness and connection.
Resources for Healing and Support
Seeking resources and guidance for healing from trauma includes accessing guides on recognizing and addressing trauma, practicing self-care, and introducing magnesium supplements for nervous system support. Understanding the essential sequence of trauma healing, practicing self-love, and creating a new worldview based on healing experiences are integral to the recovery journey. By investing in foundational support, addressing trauma responses, and nurturing the body towards healing, individuals can embark on a transformative path towards wellness and growth.
How do you start to heal from the hurt of a betrayal?
Betrayal is one of the most painful emotions you can experience as a person. Betrayal is not limited to just romantic relationships, it can be felt in all types of different relationships. Today, my good friend and colleague, Debi Silber, joins me to discuss the 5 stages of betrayal and how you can start to heal from the hurt.
You’ll hear more about:
The symptoms of betrayal trauma
Why betrayal can trigger a trauma response
Why trauma work is an integral part of healing
The coping mechanisms you might use to avoid the pain
How to know if you’re stuck — and the steps you can take to become the best version of yourself
