AJ and Johnny break down how to hold your frame when someone takes a subtle dig or tries to knock you off balance. Whether it’s a jealous coworker, a critical friend, or a family member pushing your buttons, they reveal the psychology behind those low-value power plays — and how high-value people stay calm, composed, and in control.
You’ll learn the four value positions that drive every interaction, the emotional traps that pull you into defending or proving yourself, and a simple three-step system to keep your composure under pressure. Instead of reacting, you’ll learn how to define the moment — and walk away stronger.
Chapters:
00:00 – Why people take shots at you
02:00 – The four value positions: supplicative, combative, competitive, cooperative
05:00 – How high-value people hold their frame
07:00 – The emotional traps: friends, coworkers, family
09:00 – The cooperative defense: name, ask, offer
11:00 – How to reframe digs and keep control
13:00 – Spotting your own triggers under pressure
15:00 – Turning reflection into resilience
17:00 – This week’s assignment: naming and reframing
19:00 – Upgrading your operating system
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