Sex educator and coach, Midori, shares her tips for bringing bondage and restraints into the bedroom. She defines BDSM and discusses why being bound is erotic. She covers types of restraints, body parts to restrain, and dominance and rope games. Connect with her via her website or Instagram.
Bondage and restraints can add a sense of naughty role-playing or provide a feeling of physical assurance, and can be as simple as using a blindfold or restraining with scarves or plastic wrap.
Rope bondage, known as Shibari, offers a range of possibilities for beginners, and learning a few basic knots is sufficient to start exploring, with cotton rope being an inexpensive and beginner-friendly option.
Deep dives
Bondage and Restraints in the Bedroom
Bondage and restraints can be a turn-on for many people for various reasons. It can add a sense of naughty role-playing or provide a feeling of physical assurance. Restraining someone can create a sense of struggle without causing harm or give the restrainer a connected sense of power. Bondage doesn't have to be extreme and can be as simple as using a blindfold or restraining with scarves or plastic wrap. It's important for all parties involved to have clear communication, establish boundaries, and prioritize consent.
Exploring Rope Bondage and Knots
Rope bondage, known as Shibari, offers a range of possibilities for beginners. Learning a few basic knots, such as a single column tie or a two column tie, is sufficient to start exploring. It's important to find instructional materials or videos that present these techniques in a simple and approachable manner. Cotton rope is an inexpensive and beginner-friendly option. Safety precautions, like having safety scissors on hand, are essential to ensure a positive and safe experience.
Playing with Dominance and Restraint
Dominance and restraint can be incorporated into sexual play by experimenting with a shift in language and mindset. Instead of using questions or requests, try phrasing desires as commands. This can be a psychological game that adds an element of power dynamics to the experience. It's essential to ensure that all parties involved feel comfortable and have the right to their agency, with clear boundaries and safewords in place.
The Importance of Clear Communication
Open and honest communication is crucial when it comes to exploring bondage and restraints. Discussing desires, boundaries, and expectations with your partner before engaging in any activities is essential. Understanding what each other looks and sounds like when it's going well and when it's not is helpful in maintaining a positive experience. Remember, experimentation with bondage and restraints should be a fun and consensual experience for all participants.
This episode has us all tied up and we couldn't be more excited. Midori, a sex educator and coach, is here to share all her tips for bringing bondage and restraints into the bedroom. We cover:
Midori's definition of BDSM (IT'S SO GOOD)
Why being bound is so erotic
How to get started in bondage
Types of restraints (including household items, luxury restraints & more)