TITBIT: People Pleasing Hack - Meghann Birks Coaching
Jun 5, 2024
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ADHD Coach Meghann Birks reframes People Pleasing as 'Peace Keeping' to empower individuals. Topics include societal pressure on women, self-discovery, boundaries, and nervous system responses.
Reframe people-pleasing as peacekeeping, prioritizing emotional well-being.
Recognize emotional responses, set boundaries in relationships to cultivate self-awareness.
Deep dives
Reframing People Pleasing as Peacekeeping
One key point discussed in the podcast is the concept of reframing people-pleasing behavior as peacekeeping. The speaker highlights the importance of identifying instances where individuals prioritize others' needs over their own, often stemming from early learned behaviors. By reframing this behavior as a coping mechanism for safety rather than seeking validation, individuals can start to understand the roots of their actions and work towards setting boundaries to ensure their emotional well-being.
Recognizing Emotional Responses and Setting Boundaries
Another significant insight shared in the podcast involves recognizing emotional responses and setting boundaries in interpersonal relationships. The discussion delves into how individuals, particularly women, might engage in behaviors like fawning to manage others' reactions and maintain safety. By understanding the societal pressures and past experiences that influence these responses, individuals can cultivate self-awareness and choose to communicate their needs assertively, thereby fostering healthier relationships.
Exploring Patterns for Personal Growth
The podcast also emphasizes the importance of introspection and exploring patterns for personal growth. By acknowledging past experiences and the subconscious motives behind behaviors, individuals can begin the journey of self-discovery and transformation. Understanding how past coping mechanisms have shaped present actions allows individuals to make conscious choices and embrace authenticity, leading to a more integrated and empowered sense of self.
Are you a recovering People Pleaser? I'm trying! ...Thankfully help is at hand. I'm joined once again by the wonderful ADHD Coach: Meghann Birks! In this 10 minute micro-chinwag, Meghann reframes the common ADHD trait of People Pleasing into 'Peace Keeping' - eradicating the shame many of us feel around it, to disempower it and help to empower sufferers.
I had the pleasure of being interviewed by Meghann on her amazing Podcast: Sisters in Stoke. This Canadian LEGEND lives in Melbourne and has a unique skill of delivering a pearl of wisdom in precisely 10 minutes without a timer! :) I found this conversation SO SO helpful, I hope you do too.
TW: Contains swearing and some triggering topics including: Self crticism, internalised ableism, domestic abuse, murder by an intimate partner, abusive relationships, childhood trauma, relationship struggles, school difficulties.
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