The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast 429. Why The Lower Desire Spouse Needs To Initiate Once In A While
Dec 26, 2025
In relationships, the dynamics of desire can be tricky. Lower-desire spouses initiating intimacy can create powerful emotional connections and enhance feelings of love. Fun and flirty ideas like surprise lingerie, sexy texts, or even playful props can spice things up. Scheduling intimacy and using games can also foster closeness. It's all about building anticipation and taking turns to ensure both partners feel valued. Join the challenge to boost your weekly connection and reignite the passion!
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Make Desire A Partner Priority
- The lower-desire spouse should still make desire a priority because it matters deeply to their partner.
- Amy emphasizes that thinking about sex for your spouse fosters connection even if it's not natural for you.
Testosterone Changed A Wife's Drive
- Amy mentions a woman who took testosterone and became the higher-drive partner overnight.
- That switch made the woman empathize with her husband's prior needs and created intense sexual desire.
Use Obvious Sexy Cues
- Leave a visible, sexy cue (like lingerie) or climb into bed naked to signal intent and surprise your spouse.
- These low-effort initiations remove pressure and create immediate desire for the higher-drive partner.