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The Relationship Pedestal Problem: Why Love Gets Complicated | Jillian Turecki EP 915

Mar 10, 2025
06:35

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"Many of us on an unconscious level have a blueprint of the kind of relationship we want and the blueprint of the kind of partner we want. And so we meet someone, they're amazing, we're attracted to them, and we unconsciously project our ideal onto this person." - Jillian Turecki

Relationship coach Jillian Turecki delves into one of the most confusing and painful relationship transitions: when a seemingly perfect partner begins showing concerning behaviors months into a relationship. She explains the psychological dilemma that makes walking away so difficult—after six months of connection, we're already emotionally entangled, living out our dreams of partnership, and dreading a return to the dating world. This attachment creates a devastating crossroads when red flags emerge, requiring tremendous strength to address them directly rather than ignoring them or immediately ending the relationship.

Turecki reveals the unconscious patterns that set relationships up for disappointment, particularly our tendency to project an idealized blueprint onto new partners. She describes how we place them on pedestals, making their inevitable fall that much more jarring when reality sets in. The transition from honeymoon phase to committed relationship brings a mirror to our own unresolved issues, creating a critical juncture where communication becomes essential. The real test of relationship viability isn't finding someone perfect, but finding someone willing to have difficult conversations, while also examining our own unrealistic expectations and intolerance for the imperfections we ourselves possess.

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