The Secure Love Podcast with Julie Menanno A Year Later with Melissa & Drew (Season 1 Update)
Nov 4, 2025
Melissa and Drew return to discuss their year-long journey since the first season. They candidly share their experiences with anxious-avoidant cycles and parenting differences. The couple highlights their progress in emotional regulation and how therapy has reshaped their marriage. They emphasize the importance of vulnerability and mutual support, contradicting the notion that only one partner needs to change. Their reflections reinforce that healing is an ongoing process, showcasing both struggles and transformative growth.
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Do Grief Work If Trust Is Absent
- When a partner may be planning an exit, do inner grief work and detach from expectations to protect your nervous system.
- Seek external support and process the fear instead of staying stuck in anxiety and anger.
Try EFIT For Individual Attachment Work
- Try Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) to organize triggers, bodily feelings, and core fears when working solo.
- Use EFIT to build co-regulation skills and then seek others who can also support your emotional needs.
Life-Changing Therapy Turnaround
- Melissa and Drew described their therapy journey as life-changing and essential for survival of their marriage.
- They credit structured EFT sessions and persistent effort for rebuilding trust and safety at home.
