Marie Thouin, a dating and relationship coach, discusses compersion in non-monogamous relationships. Topics include learning to feel compersion, age's impact on compersion, and different approaches to cultivating compersion. The discussion explores the dynamics of compersion and its relation to sex and relationships.
Compersion is the positive feeling when a partner enjoys time with someone else in non-monogamous relationships, expanding to thoughts and behaviors.
As individuals age, they may find it easier to experience compersion, benefiting from increased experience, reduced insecurity, and improved acceptance of metamours.
Deep dives
Understanding Compersion in Relationships
Compersion is the experience of positive feelings when a partner enjoys time with someone else in consensually non-monogamous relationships. This phenomenon goes beyond emotion, expanding to thoughts and behaviors. Marie Tuen, a relationship coach, dives into building a framework for compersion in varied contexts, emphasizing the need for support and role models to foster compersion.
The Impact of Age on Compersion
Compersion can evolve with age, with older individuals, especially those over 65, showing greater ease in experiencing compersion. Benefits include mutual support and a richness in diverse relationships. Older polyamorous individuals tend to have more experience, less insecurity, and improved acceptance of metamours, fostering compersion.
Learning Compersion and Cultivating Empathy
Learning compersion involves creating a conducive environment by addressing individual, relational, and social factors. Cultivating empathy and focusing on partner experiences fosters positive empathy. Marie stresses the importance of seeking diverse resources, communities, and engaging in introspection to promote compersion. Striving for compersion should align with healthy relationship dynamics and individual well-being, with an understanding that it may not always be an immediate or suitable goal.
When you take pleasure in your partner’s pleasure or happiness, this is known as compersion. It’s a form of positive empathy that many people in non-monogamous relationships experience. However, some people seem to have an easier time feeling compersion than others. So can it be learned? And should compersion always be a goal in non-monogamy? Let’s talk about it!
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