Nope! We're Not Monogamous Relationship Anxiety in Polyamory: It’s Not Just You, Ep. 129
Sep 25, 2025
Feeling anxious in a polyamorous relationship? You're not alone! Discover the roots of relationship anxiety and jealousy beyond just partner dynamics. Learn practical tools to soothe your nervous system and build emotional safety without relying solely on external reassurance. Ellecia shares how to communicate hard feelings effectively, create supportive agreements, and trust yourself amid challenging emotions. Embrace self-soothing techniques to empower your journey in non-monogamy!
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Bathroom-Floor-Crying Moment
- Ellecia shares she cried in the bathroom and played it cool while her nervous system panicked during early poly experiences.
- She frames that struggle as common and part of building emotional safety, not failure.
Anxiety Rooted In Monogamous Conditioning
- Relationship anxiety in non-monogamy often comes from internalized monogamous cultural beliefs, not personal failure.
- Your nervous system is trying to protect you, so anxiety is a human response, not evidence you're broken.
Journal Concrete Needs And Tolerances
- Do journal answers to "what do I need to feel seen and safe" and list concrete actions that create security for you.
- Do identify what you're tolerating that erodes your peace and write it down so you can address it.