The Crappy Childhood Fairy Podcast with Anna Runkle

Here's Why Excessively Focusing on Others Keeps You Alone

Mar 29, 2024

21:55

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The podcast discusses the irony of codependency, where focusing excessively on others can actually stem from self-absorption. Signs of codependency can include feeling invaded and irritated by a loved one's overinvolvement. It can be a form of self-centeredness, manifesting as an urge to fix others or control their behavior. The episode explores the intersection between setting boundaries, navigating family relationships, and self-reflection in recovering from codependent patterns.

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Codependent behavior involves focusing on others while being absorbed in oneself, causing boundaries to feel impossible to establish.

Childhood dynamics can shape codependency, even in seemingly happy families, leading to self-centered behaviors and emotional unavailability.

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Recognizing Codependent Behaviors

Codependent behavior involves being excessively focused on others but ultimately being absorbed in oneself. An indicator of someone behaving codependently towards you is feeling invaded and irritated by their attempts to connect. This behavior often results in boundaries feeling impossible to establish, leading to feelings of being overwhelmed by their constant hovering and intrusion.

Introduction

3min

Navigating Codependency in Family Relationships

6min

Navigating Family Dynamics and Setting Boundaries

8min

Navigating Boundaries and Self-Reflection in Recovery

2min

Technique for Releasing Fearful and Resentful Thinking for Clarity and Self-Transformation

3min

The irony about a codependent person is that, while they’re focusing excessively on someone else, they’re actually absorbed in themselves. And one sign that someone is codependent toward you CAN BE that you feel VERY irritated and invaded by a loved one’s excessive focus on you. They hover, they get in your business; it feels impossible to have boundaries around them. They say it’s just because they love you but Something feels OFF. Sometimes codependency is an urge to fix you – but sometimes it’s not about you at all. It’s about THEM. And that’s the dirty secret of codependency – it can actually be one face of self-centeredness. In this video I respond to a letter from a woman who is learning this the hard way.

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