As we know, change is hard for everyone, but if you’ve had a high conflict individual in your life, you know that change for them is seemingly impossible. Our minds tell us that they’re doing it on purpose or at least partially so; and that they can change if they’d just choose that route. But is that a reality? If we start with the premise that people with high conflict personalities don’t even know they have such a thing, why would change?
In this episode, Bill and Megan talk about:
- whether people with high conflict personalities know they’re such
- whether people with high conflict personalities can change
- if change is possible:
- what is the likelihood of change
- what it takes to help them change, such as therapy, programs, those around them
- how to approach someone with a high conflict personality HCP about their need for change and whether you should ever do that
NOTE: We are not diagnosing or labeling anyone and neither should anyone listening to this podcast. Instead, we focus on what to do to help.
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Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.
- (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
- (02:09) - Does an HCP recognize they need to change?
- (05:35) - Can an HCP change?
- (07:36) - Borderline Personality Type
- (08:57) - Narcissistic Personality Type
- (10:38) - Histrionic Personality Type
- (11:04) - Antisocial Personality Type
- (12:10) - Helping Borderline HCPs Change
- (13:17) - What It Takes to Help Them Change
- (16:03) - Developing Empathy
- (18:09) - Time and Repetition
- (20:08) - Adapting to the Change in HCPs
- (21:10) - Approaching an HCP About Changing
- (26:43) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: What if I'm high conflict?
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It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People