Can People with High Conflict Personalities Change?
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Jul 7, 2022
Exploring the possibility of change in individuals with high conflict personalities, focusing on borderline personality disorder and treatment methods like cognitive behavioral therapy and dialectical behavior therapy; developing empathy in high conflict people through role-playing exercises and a supportive environment; the importance of not diagnosing or labeling individuals; addressing the challenges faced by high conflict personalities and the need for time, repetition, and support for lasting change.
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Why Change Feels Unnecessary To Them
High-conflict people often lack self-awareness and therefore don't see a need to change.
Their blame-focused, all-or-nothing patterns keep conflicts alive and prevent resolution.
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Normal People Self-Correct; HCPs Don't
Most people automatically examine their part in conflicts and try to adjust behavior.
High-conflict people do not self-reflect, which explains their chronic escalation and repeated disputes.
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Some HCP Types Are More Treatable
Personality-disorder traits overlap with high-conflict behavior and make change harder.
Borderline-type high-conflict people show the most promise because therapies like DBT can produce substantial change over years.
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As we know, change is hard for everyone, but if you’ve had a high conflict individual in your life, you know that change for them is seemingly impossible. Our minds tell us that they’re doing it on purpose or at least partially so; and that they can change if they’d just choose that route. But is that a reality? If we start with the premise that people with high conflict personalities don’t even know they have such a thing, why would change?
In this episode, Bill and Megan talk about:
whether people with high conflict personalities know they’re such
whether people with high conflict personalities can change
if change is possible:
what is the likelihood of change
what it takes to help them change, such as therapy, programs, those around them
how to approach someone with a high conflict personality HCP about their need for change and whether you should ever do that
NOTE: We are not diagnosing or labeling anyone and neither should anyone listening to this podcast. Instead, we focus on what to do to help.
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