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How to Call People In (Instead of Calling Them Out) | Loretta Ross

Dec 12, 2022

In this engaging discussion, Loretta Ross, a radical Black feminist and activist, champions the idea of 'calling in' as a more compassionate alternative to the divisive 'calling out.' She shares insights on fostering constructive conversations in a polarized society and the nuances of social justice. Loretta emphasizes the importance of empathy and tailored communication to bridge gaps and transform dialogue toward accountability. With a focus on listening and understanding, she offers practical strategies for maintaining humanity while engaging in difficult conversations.

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Loretta J. Ross

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The Queen of the Call in Culture

01:42

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02:01

I Throw Donald Trump a Life Rat

01:37

Intro

5min

Navigating Constructive Conversations in a Divided Society

2min

Navigating Social Justice: Compassion and Complexity

28min

Transforming Dialogue: From Calling Out to Calling In

3min

Rethinking Whiteness and Activism

9min

Navigating Call-Out Culture: From Confrontation to Compassion

5min

The Balance of Compassion and Accountability

9min

Emphasizing Listening and Gratitude in Dialogue

2min

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If you’re tired of the venom, preening, and predatory listening so common on all sides of our various cultural divides, this episode is for you.

My guest today is Loretta Ross, who believes that “calling out,” which is quite common on social media these days, is adding way too much toxicity to the discourse and alienating people who might otherwise be allies. Instead, she believes in “calling in,” which steadfastly insists on a large measure of grace, and rejects the impulse to dehumanize.

On today’s show, Loretta offers a compelling mode of engagement that is insistently open-minded and large-hearted, no matter where you stand on the political divide.

Loretta describes herself as a radical Black feminist, activist, and public intellectual. She’s a visiting Associate Professor at Smith College, and she also teaches an online course called, Calling in the Calling Out Culture.

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