Living Free in Tennessee - Nicole Sauce Victim or Victor - EP 1060
Before we dive in today: Prayers up for everyone dealing with the aftermath of the Texas floods. The loss of life has been heartbreaking. As always, we’ll work to connect you with ways to help — but only through channels where your time, money, and energy won’t be wasted. Stay tuned.
Today, we talk about being a victim vs being a victor in the same situations leading to the question: How important is your perspective? We also cover our usual Monday Segments.
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Tales from the Prepper Pantry- Tried a new method for preserving Swiss chard
- Second wave of cucumbers is coming in this week
- Ate a frog: cleared out the storage shed (creating more space for power pantry storage instead of just piles of stuff)
- Time to double down on drying herbs for tea and cooking
- Really excited about the upcoming canning class
- Hosted a Hipcamper this weekend — boom! $25 earned
Main Topic of the Show: Victim or Victor
First let's look at what a victim is - or rather signs that you are acting like a victim and therefore bringing more negative upon yourself:
- Overusing the term "I can't"
- Explaining to friends all the things that went wrong or worked against you EVERY time you get together.
- Obsessing on what other people think about you, say about you, did to you - or are doing to you to undermine you
- Telling yourself you'll never get X because Y happened - over and over - this is a message that will come true when you say it - you are the story you tell yourself
- Focus on the causes of your current troubles rather than the things that can solve problems.
And what does the victor look like?
- Takes rabid responsibility for their part in their own troubles (John Bush on self reflection, Buying things with a credit card to satisfy the instant gratification monkey, Friend with a violent husband removing herself from access, etc.)
- Controls their reaction to bad things to make the best of it - but not in a fake toxic positivity way. (Macchu Picchu)
- Focuses on what they CAN control (this one hurts for a reforming political junkie)
- Sees obstacles as challenges rather than insurmountable roadblocks
- Gains self worth internally, not from the feedback of others (and therefore cares not what people say about them or if people are trying to undermine them)
A victor will ask - how can I? A victim will say I can't. That is the biggest difference between the two.
So how do you become a victor when you are stuck as a victim?
- Recognize where you are - that is the first step to owning your future
- Shift your mindset from being helpless to proactive, rabid responsibility
- Know what you cannot control, and embrace that you can control your reaction to it
- Kill the negative thoughts and paranoia and ask yourself - How can i?
- Forgive - forgive yourself, forgive those around you - but it is ok to NOT forget6. Set boundaries to keep yourself building your future rather than getting stuck in past, unhealthy cycles.
That choice — to build forward instead of staying broken — is what changes everything.
Make it a great week.
GUYS! Don’t forget about the cookbook, Cook With What You Have by Nicole Sauce and Mama Sauce.
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