In a World Where We Are So Connected, Why Are We All Feeling Lonely? - Uncut with Dr Ali Walker
Nov 28, 2023
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Dr Ali Walker, a Human Connection Scientist & Mediator, joins the podcast. They discuss how despite being more connected through social media, we feel lonelier. They explore the impact of fake connection, the difference between solitude and loneliness, and how introverts and extroverts experience loneliness differently. The long-term effects of loneliness and strategies to combat it are also covered.
Loneliness is a global health priority, even in a world where we are more connected through technology than ever before.
Loneliness is a subjective experience influenced by both frequency and intensity, and too much solitude can sometimes lead to loneliness.
Loneliness has significant impacts on mental and physical health, but diversifying connections and building face-to-face relationships can combat it.
Deep dives
Loneliness during the Christmas season
During the holiday season, many people feel a heightened sense of loneliness, despite the emphasis on connection. The World Health Organization has even declared loneliness a global health priority. Surprisingly, young Australians between 15 and 24 experience more loneliness than older Australians. Loneliness is not just a feeling, but it can also have physiological effects on the body, increasing the risk of stroke, early death, and dementia. It is essential to recognize that many people feel lonely during this time and that the conversation around loneliness is crucial for providing solace and tools to manage these feelings.
Loneliness versus solitude
Loneliness is the negative feeling that arises when there is a gap between what one wants to experience and what one is experiencing. Solitude, on the other hand, is a positive feeling when there is no gap between what one wants and what one is experiencing. Loneliness can have different impacts on individuals, and it is important to understand that it is a subjective experience. It is also vital to acknowledge that too much solitude can sometimes lead to a negative impact and feelings of loneliness. Both frequency and intensity play a role in how individuals experience loneliness, and recognizing and understanding these factors can help in addressing feelings of loneliness.
Loneliness and its impact on health
Loneliness can have significant impacts on both mental and physical health. It has been found to increase the risk of depression, anxiety, and even early death. It can affect sleep patterns, appetite, and lead to engaging in antisocial behaviors, including addiction. On the other hand, strong connections and a sense of belonging can promote healing, learning, and increase the longevity of life. It is crucial to address and manage feelings of loneliness, as it is a fundamental need for human beings that, if unmet, can result in various physical and mental health repercussions.
The importance of diversifying connections
In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on romantic relationships as the primary source of connection. However, it is essential to diversify connections and recognize the importance of other relationships, such as friendships, family, and community, in ensuring a sense of belonging and reducing feelings of loneliness. Social media and digital connections can play a role, but they should not replace or overshadow genuine face-to-face connections. Building and nurturing a variety of connections can significantly contribute to overall well-being and combat loneliness.
Addressing loneliness and finding connection
Addressing loneliness begins with self-reflection and understanding one's values and priorities. By identifying what brings joy and fulfillment, individuals can seek out activities and communities aligned with their interests. Routine and predictability play a crucial role in fostering connections, and investing time and effort in nurturing relationships is key. It is also important to recognize that everyone's experience of loneliness is different, and individuals may have different preferences and needs when it comes to connection. By being intentional, vulnerable, and willing to make an effort, it is possible to overcome loneliness and cultivate meaningful connections.
The World Health Organisation has declared loneliness as a global health priority.
Stats show that young people feel more lonely than any generation before but it seems as though we should be the most connected because of technology. So why are we all feeling lonely when we have a phone in our hand most hours of the day?
