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001: The influence of culture on parenting

Aug 18, 2016

This discussion dives into the chilling realities of child treatment throughout history, contrasting it with today's parenting. It explores how cultural differences have shaped child development, from social skills to academic focus. The role of play versus emotional well-being is examined, inviting reflection on personal parenting choices. Listeners learn about the importance of being conscious of inherited values and how to integrate traditional practices with contemporary methods for better outcomes.

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Historical Child Treatment

Child murder and neglect have been surprisingly common throughout history and various cultures.
Western societies have shifted from prioritizing adults to children in recent centuries.

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Cultural Influence on Parenting

Jen Lumanlan's parenting choices are shaped by her culture, but she can select aspects and borrow from others.
Scientific research on parenting primarily focuses on white children, limiting its applicability to other cultures.

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Cultural Differences in Communication

In Tracton, a Black community, children are not seen as conversational partners and are rarely asked direct questions.
Adults use analogy questions to test children's observational skills and frequently use metaphors, contrasting with popular parenting advice for white parents.

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Have you ever thought about how common the murder of children has been in societies we now call “Western” in the past, as well as societies all over the world today? In my naivete as a parent I figured there would be some differences in how people parent their children around the world, but I never imagined that people in my own back yards would parent completely differently from me. And I sort of figured that the ‘around the world’ differences were mostly a function of the availability of products and services – wouldn’t everyone encourage artistic ability if they had access to paper and crayons? Turns out it’s not the case. Elders and even ancestors occupied the top of the family heap in most societies for most of our history. In Western (also called “WEIRD”) societies, we’ve reversed this paradigm and children find themselves ruling the roost. Yet we’re also starting to “borrow” elements of other cultures – like baby-wearing and elimination communication. I’ll also examine how several other cultures approach topics like transmitting knowledge and shaping behavior. You might ask yourself “but why do I care whether a three year-old Warao child in Venezuela can paddle a canoe?” It was learning about these kinds of cultural differences that allowed me to take a step back and see the information I’m transmitting to my own daughter that’s based on my culture, and think through whether these are the kinds of messages I want to send to her. How did your culture and experience shape you, and have you made a conscious decision to include these elements of your culture in your parenting style or are you just running on autopilot? Jump to highlights 00:36 Introduction of episode 00:59 The anthropology of childhood 01:52 A study in Hungary 03:57 Infant death became the cause of public concern 04:37 The child's right not to be hit 04:55 Every decision we make as parents is determined by our culture 06:11 Every child is different 07:57 Parents control their children in different ways 08:45 The rarest strategy of controlling behavior 10:30 Concern for the children’s emotional well-being 11:06 Ideas to bring out to life References Bryant, A (no date). 7 reasons not to compare your child with others… Available at: http://parenting.allwomenstalk.com/reasons-not-to-compare-your-child-with-others

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Zero to Three (2016). How our history influences how we raise our children. Available at: https://www.zerotothree.org/resources/286-how-our-history-influences-how-we-raise-our-children