Savage Lovecast Episode 974

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Jul 1, 2025

Lina Dune, writer and host of the Ask a Sub podcast, dives deep into complex relationship dynamics. She discusses a listener's past with a former professor, questioning ethical boundaries in student-teacher relationships. Lina also tackles a unique parenting dilemma for a new mother in a BDSM dynamic, offering insights on balancing kink with family life. Additionally, Colby Jaxxx shares his experiences in competitive masturbation culture, adding humor and candor to the conversation.

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ANECDOTE

College Romance Turns Complicated

A woman in her late 40s hooked up with a former young professor who was no longer her teacher but in her department.
They had a brief romance that ended when he preferred someone else, and a later visit ended in rejection, leaving her devastated.

INSIGHT

Changing Standards on Prof-Student Relationships

Twenty years ago, relationships between professors and former students in the same department were often tolerated if consensual and without direct power over grades.
Today, such relationships would generally be seen as inappropriate due to potential power imbalances, but past standards differed significantly.

ADVICE

How To Find a Third Partner

When seeking a third for sex, avoid seeming desperate; create individual profiles and a couple's profile to meet people organically on kinky apps.
Attend larger city events or commercial sex spaces, and invite casual partners back repeatedly to evolve relationships naturally.

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A woman in her late 40s is struggling to process a relationship she had when she was in college. She slept with a former professor of hers but then got rejected by him. After she moved away, she arranged a visit with him, and got rejected again. Now, over 20 years later, she's wondering if his actions were unethical or inappropriate.

We've gotten some tricky parenting questions in the past, but this one is extra-special. The caller is a new mother, and the 24/7 dom in a clothed female/naked male relationship. She treats her service sub roughly and her pet name for him is "slut." It's all well and good while the child is an infant, but how can they maintain their relationship style when the kid is older and asking questions like "Why isn't daddy allowed to sit on the furniture?" Dan brings on Lina Dune from the Ask A Sub podcast to advise.

On the Magnum, welcome to the world of competitive masturbation. Meet Colby Jaxxx, a professional gooner content creator and winner of the second season of The Great BateWorld BateOff™! Dan and Colby talk about this niche gig, poppers in gooning culture, the unique challenges when gooners date each other, and the presence of "girlie gooners."

And, a polite gay man endowed with a high volume of come wonders if he should warn his lovers that they are about to be blasted. Or should it be a big surprise?

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Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From 24/7 Dom/sub relationships to abstinence, gooning to ghosting and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity.