Episode 433: How To Unlock More Pleasure And Desire

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Sep 19, 2025

Join Dr. Juliana Hauser, a licensed marriage and family therapist and expert in sexuality, as she discusses how to unlock more pleasure and desire in our lives. She reveals the importance of prioritizing pleasure daily and how our relationship with sexual desires can change over time. Dr. Hauser shares practical tips for embracing small joys, normalizing pleasure discussions, and navigating boundaries in intimacy. Discover how mindfulness and techniques like the Four Quadrants Exercise can empower personal exploration and enhance sexual agency.

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INSIGHT

Holistic Sexuality As Self-Knowledge

Holistic sexuality requires deep self-understanding of your body, libido, needs, and partner preferences.
This self-knowledge lets you make choices aligned with core needs and live them with agency.

ADVICE

Infuse Micro-Pleasures Daily

Infuse micro-pleasures into daily conversation and vocabulary to normalize and prioritize pleasure.
Talk about small pleasures out loud to shift mindset and stop reserving pleasure for rare occasions.

ANECDOTE

Napa Moment Changed Her Pleasure Talk

Juliana describes savoring a meal and wine alone in Napa and deciding to announce her pleasure aloud.
That moment helped her realize she could celebrate sensual experiences publicly and shift her relationship with pleasure.

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Holistic sexuality involves having a deep enough level of self-understanding that you can make choices that are aligned with your core needs and feel empowered to live out those choices in your own life. In today’s show, we’re going to talk about harnessing holistic sexuality in order to lead a more pleasure-filled life and be more in tune with our desires.

I’m joined once again by Dr. Juliana Hauser, a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor. In addition to running a successful virtual private practice, Dr. Juliana is a nationally known sex expert whose work has appeared all over in the media. Her latest book is A New Position on Sex: A Guide to Greater Sexual Confidence, Pleasure, and Authenticity.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

How can we have a healthier relationship with our own sexual pleasure?
How do we make pleasure a priority in everyday life?
What are some practical ways to reawaken sexual desire?
How can we begin to identify what we really do and don’t want when it comes to sex?
How can we get better at both saying “no” and hearing “no” in the bedroom?

You can visit Juliana’s website to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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