The Dildorks We Good?
Oct 21, 2025
This discussion tackles the art of relationship check-ins, highlighting how they can smooth out stresses and anxieties in partnerships. The hosts explore structuring check-ins like household meetings to keep casual time intact. They emphasize reframing check-ins as proactive care rather than crisis management, suggesting that ordinary check-ins can reduce emotional activation. Tips on crafting good questions and adding fun prompts are shared to enhance connection. They conclude with strategies for aftercare, ensuring every check-in ends on a positive note.
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Schedule Predictable Check-In Time
- Do schedule regular relationship check-ins to create a predictable container for attention-heavy conversations.
- Use calendared time so you don't have to find ad-hoc moments or 'ruin the vibe' later.
Hosts' Check-In Practices
- Billy Lohr's household holds a weekly check-in every Sunday night and it has been working well for them.
- Kate Sloan used check-ins during a stressful poly phase but moved to as-needed conversations afterward.
Reframe As Us Versus The Problem
- Reframe check-ins as 'us versus the problem' instead of 'you versus me' to build teamwork and reduce blame.
- That shift makes check-ins feel collaborative rather than accusatory.
