This podcast explores the concept of revenge after a breakup and discusses the negative effects it can have. The hosts provide advice on how to deal with someone seeking revenge and emphasize the importance of protecting yourself and focusing on personal growth. They also mention the support available through Love Better for those going through breakups.
Revenge in breakups can be harmful and lead to negative emotions, obsessive thoughts, and damage to one's self-esteem.
Focusing on personal growth, practicing radical acceptance, and seeking support are healthier alternatives to seeking revenge in breakups.
Deep dives
Understanding the Need for Breakup Support
The hosts introduce their new podcast series, Own the Feels, aimed at helping people navigate breakups and their emotions. They discuss the lack of education on how to cope with breakups and emphasize the importance of creating a space to learn how to break up better and deal with the intense emotions that come with it. The hosts share their own breakup experiences, highlighting the profound impact breakups can have on one's self-worth and relationships. They express gratitude for the stories shared by listeners and promise to make the podcast series informative, helpful, and entertaining.
Exploring the Urge for Revenge
The podcast delves into the topic of revenge in breakups. They highlight the common desire for revenge and discuss various ways people seek revenge, from ghosting to making exes jealous on social media. The hosts share real-life stories from listeners who have sought revenge and discuss the harmful impact revenge can have on individuals. They emphasize that revenge increases anger, leads to obsessive thoughts, and can damage one's sense of self. The importance of focusing on one's own life, practicing radical acceptance, and seeking support are highlighted as healthier alternatives to seeking revenge.
Understanding the Harmfulness of Revenge
The hosts explore why revenge is detrimental in the context of breakups. They discuss how revenge can amplify negative emotions, lead to ruminations and obsessive thoughts, and erode one's self-esteem. The hosts emphasize the importance of not letting revenge drain energy that could be better directed towards one's own well-being. They caution against revenge cycles and highlight the need to break free from the cycle by focusing on personal growth and moving forward.
Tips for Dealing with the Urge for Revenge
The podcast offers practical tips for individuals dealing with the urge for revenge. They highlight the importance of being honest with oneself about feelings, waiting until calm to respond, and evaluating the validity of the need for revenge. The hosts stress the significance of focusing on one's own life instead of the ex-partner, protecting oneself from negative interactions, and seeking support from friends, family, or therapists. The podcast concludes by emphasizing the power of radical acceptance and personal growth in breaking free from revenge cycles and moving forward.
Welcome to our first-ever episode of Own the Feels - brought to you in partnership with Love Better - where we’re doing our damnedest to help us break-up better - which means owning whatever we’re feeling and learning how to deal with it.
This week we’re talking all about Revenge - and how we can be better than it.
We hear from a few different people who’ve sought revenge in a break-up - from leaving polaroids around their ex's house, to pretending that they’re getting back together and then literally moving countries - but most importantly, we offer up some tangible tips to curb that need to ‘get even’ and how to spot when it crosses the line from ‘harmless’ to ‘harmful.’
A huge thank you to Love Better, and everyone who gave us their stories to make these podcasts possible. If you want to know more about how to break-up better, listen to next week's episode, and head to https://www.vice.com/en/topic/love-better.
If anything you've heard in this podcast makes you think you should reach out for a little more help, please do!