Coming Out Late Ep. #58: Late Blooming Conversations, Part 1
In this episode, Robin shares with us an inside look into one of her four weekly support groups she facilitates for women coming out late in life. With permission from all the women in this small group, on this particular day, they collectively agreed that the conversation that transpired was just too good NOT to share with her podcast listeners.
In this episode you will hear and learn about . . .
- We initially opened the conversation by pondering the following comment/question: “Do you find that it’s much more intense dating women than men?”
- Discussing that first question then morphed into us discussing THIS question: “Have you found it hard to not get caught up in the ‘new relationship energy’ feelings? What are some tools you would suggest to help with those intense ‘new relationship energy’ feelings?”
- Feel the feelings. Feel ALL the feelings. BUT…do NOT let new relationship-energy cloud your judgment!
- What is New Relationship Energy? (NRE)? And is it something to avoid, fear or dive-into?
- How do recovering people pleasers handle the intoxicating feelings from new relationship energy? Are there tools to deal with new relationship energy?
- How do you transition, within a relationship, from ‘new relationship energy’, to something more sustainable? From obsession to success & sustainable?
- The importance of our female friendships and their ability to tell us with loving kindness the difficult things we need to hear about ourselves.
- Setting realistic expectations for yourself, AND within a relationship.
- The value in maintaining personal autonomy within your relationship.
- While sounding cliché, the critical nature of communication in ALL of our (close) relationships.
- Trusting our feelings and our intuition.
- Tools for our personal growth.
- Having everything, but still feeling, “...is this it?”
- If somebody would have just said this to me when I was a little girl . . .
- Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
Links to resources:
SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: Handling the Ho-Ho-Ho-mophobia During the Holidays!Join us virtually in Zoom on Wednesday, November 16, from 7pm to 9pm EST when we invite Hulu’s star couple from “Mormon No More” and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne and Lena Schwen. Who better to talk to us about how to handle the holidays than this family of seven children, and two ex-husbands, than a couple of former Mormons. $27 pp. Register using the Calendly link below. Recordings are available for purchase for $27, by emailing Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Register for the Live, virtual event here:https://calendly.com/comingoutlatecommunity/speaker-summit-4
COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:
ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:
Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122
Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST