Ep 403 People Matter, Things Don’t with Justin and Kylie Coulson

Zach sits down with Justin and Kylie Coulson, parents of six daughters and co-creators of the Happy Families movement. What unfolds is a deeply honest conversation about failure, repair, intention, and the long road toward building a family culture that actually feels good to live in.

Justin shares a pivotal early-parenting moment that became the turning point of his life: a loss of control with one of their young children that forced him to confront who he was becoming as a father and husband. Kylie describes the clarity she felt in that moment—her love for Justin alongside her unwavering commitment to her children’s safety—and how that line in the sand changed everything.

From there, the conversation traces Justin’s radical career pivot from radio to psychology, the years of study and sacrifice that followed, and the birth of the Happy Families philosophy. Together, Justin and Kylie unpack what “happy” actually means—not the absence of hardship, but the presence of connection, safety, and shared joy, especially around the family table.

They share the simple but powerful structures they use to stay aligned: weekly check-ins, quarterly retreats, and a three-question framework that replaces blame with collaboration. Through stories of totalled cars, hard choices, and repaired moments, Justin and Kylie show how families are built—not through perfection, but through practised responses, accountability, and love that stays bigger than the mess.

Key Takeaways

• We always get to choose our response – Circumstances don’t dictate behavior; intention does.

• People matter, things don’t – Safety, connection, and relationship always come before stuff.

• Happy families are built, not inherited – Skills like communication, repair, and emotional regulation are learnable.

• Hardship doesn’t cancel happiness – Joy is found in meaning, not ease.

• Repair builds trust – Conflict isn’t the enemy; unresolved conflict is.

• Structure creates safety – Regular check-ins and retreats help families stay aligned.

• Blame kills collaboration – Asking “How can we support each other?” changes everything.

• The table is the vision – A family that wants to be together is the real measure of success.

Guest Info

Justin & Kylie Coulson

Justin Coulson is a parenting expert, author, psychologist, and founder of Happy Families (https://happyfamilies.com.au/). He hosts Australia’s most-downloaded parenting podcast, The Happy Families Podcast, and appears on national television. Kylie Coulson is his partner in parenting and purpose, bringing clarity, steadiness, and lived wisdom to their work together.

They are parents of six daughters, grandparents to one (and counting), and passionate advocates for intentional family culture.

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