Ep 172: The Parent Paradox: Avoid 'Fix-It Mode' for Better Problem-Solving

The sense of urgency in parenting often leads to reactive rather than creative problem-solving, posing unique challenges for both parents and children. Elaine and Diane, drawing from their personal experiences and insights, underscore the importance of recognizing and managing the signs of reactivity, such as hypervigilance or catastrophizing. Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Elaine and Diane as they discuss problem-solving.Ten Tips for Calm and Confident Parenting of Complex KidsParenting complex kids can be difficult, even mind-numbing at times. In this FREE Guide you’ll find clear, quick guidance to help you calm the chaos and more confidently prepare your child for greater independence and success! Learn techniques parents all over the world are using to reduce friction and (believe it!) rediscover the joy of parenting.UTM: https://impactparents.pages.ontraport.net/calm-confident-tipsheet?utm_campaign=Podcast&utm_source=episode&utm_medium=cta&utm_content=calmHere is what to expect on this week’s show:Elaine and Diane understand as parents you must recognize when you are in a reactive state and make a conscious effort to shift towards a calmer mindset before addressing the issue at hand. This allows for more thoughtful and effective problem-solving.Practice pausing in interactions with your children to allow for reflection and emotional regulation. This space enables both parents and children to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively.Elaine and Diane stress guiding your children through moments of discomfort instead of immediately rescuing them. By helping them navigate challenging emotions, you empower them to develop emotional self-regulation skills for the future.LinksBeyond Mean Girls: Parenting and Dignity with Rosalind Wiseman: https://youtu.be/GfmkH5HkaS4Effective Agreements: https://youtu.be/1Sf6G37JW80Rules, Boundaries, & Agreements: Balancing Freedom with Responsibility: https://youtu.be/gUQdne8YliMRecognizing and Managing Stress Triggers as Parents: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y42_YS3w3Is&t=775s5 Steps to Settle Family Politics: https://impactparents.com/blog/complex-kids/5-steps-to-settle-family-politics/Handling Conflicts with Complex Kids: https://impactparents.com/blog/complex-kids/handling-conflict-with-complex-kidsWelcome to Parenting With Impact: https://youtu.be/FykSBnaWXhkGet your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools https://impactparents.com/gift Connect with Impact Parents:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents/ @impactparentsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParent@impactparentLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents/@impactparentsTwitter: https://twitter.com/ImpactParents@impactparentsLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices