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The Place We Find Ourselves

159 Revisiting the Big Six: What You Needed from Your Parents

Jul 15, 2024
The discussion reveals the 'Big Six' essential needs children have from parents, including attunement and emotional engagement. Personal stories highlight the impact of these needs and the importance of parental responsiveness during tough times, such as bullying. Emotional safety is emphasized as crucial for healthy relationships. The speaker shares a touching journey of healing and repairing emotional ties with their own parents, illustrating the long-lasting effects of these dynamics on childhood development.
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  • Attunement from parents is essential for a child's emotional security and brain development, ensuring they feel understood and safe.
  • Responsiveness to children's emotional needs reinforces their ability to express feelings, preventing issues with emotional suppression and isolation.

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The Importance of Attunement

Attunement is crucial for forming a secure attachment and supporting healthy brain development in children. It involves parents being able and willing to recognize and respond to their child's emotional states. When parents are attuned, children feel understood and safe, leading to a strong bond and better development. An example shared highlights the devastating impact of a parent’s lack of attunement, where a father failed to notice his child’s excitement about swimming, leading to feelings of sadness and disconnection.

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