Why talking about toxic masculinity is getting trickier
Feb 19, 2023
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A father investigates his son's online experience. The origin and misinterpretation of toxic masculinity. Online communities' impact on boys. Social media's influence on perceptions of masculinity. Leading by example in exhibiting respectful behaviors.
Toxic masculinity represents harmful and limiting expectations about being a man, which can be misunderstood as labeling all masculinity as inherently toxic, hindering productive conversations about gender expectations.
Online communities that lack accountability for bad behavior can reinforce toxic views and stereotypes, isolating individuals from real-world relationships that could foster empathy and understanding.
Deep dives
The Emergence and Definition of Toxic Masculinity
Toxic masculinity, a term that emerged in the 1980s within the mythopoetic men's movement, refers to harmful and limiting expectations about being a man. It gained wider popularity in the mid-2010s. Although masculinity varies across cultures, toxic masculinity represents beliefs and behaviors that harm both men themselves and others. It is associated with negative health outcomes and higher levels of violence. However, the term can be misunderstood as labeling all masculinity as inherently toxic, which hinders productive conversations about gender expectations.
The Appeal and Influence of Online Toxic Masculinity
Certain online figures, like Andrew Tate, attract followers by addressing real needs for information and guidance. They tap into boys' and men's desire for guidance in relationships and life in general. In some cases, online communities provide a space that lacks accountability for bad behavior and promotes victimhood and a distorted sense of power. These communities can reinforce toxic views and stereotypes while isolating individuals from real-world relationships that could foster empathy and understanding.
The Importance of Challenging and Providing Alternatives to Toxic Masculinity
Addressing toxic masculinity requires challenging its sources, such as shock jocks, religious figures, and political leaders who endorse harmful beliefs. It also involves offering healthy and positive alternatives to boys and men. Leading by example, fostering respectful behaviors, and promoting healthy family relationships can provide concrete models of positive masculinity. Engaging in conversations about healthy masculinity is crucial, whether through school curricula, public awareness campaigns, or within the family context.
Do you get defensive when you hear the term toxic masculinity?
You wouldn't be the only one, if so.
In this episode, we follow one dad's attempts to understand where internet algorithms are sending his son… and ask, how do we deal with toxic masculinity, when the very term has become contested?
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