Being Known Podcast S11E5: The Foundation of Resilience: How Small Disruptions Build Stronger Connections
Feb 19, 2025
Delve into the neuroscience of human connection and discover how our brains are wired for relationships. Explore the impact of benign ruptures—small misunderstandings that can strengthen bonds rather than fracture them. Learn how early experiences shape trust and communication skills as well as the crucial role of repair in emotional intimacy. Personal anecdotes and insights highlight how navigating disruptions fosters resilience and healthier relationships, providing a roadmap for emotional growth.
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Ruptures Build Resilience
- Ruptures in relationships are a normal part of life's rhythm and help develop resilience through repair.
- Our brain anticipates these ruptures, making repair essential to reduce fear and distress of separation.
Relational Distancing as Rupture
- Ruptures manifest as perceived relational distancing, causing internal distress even in infants.
- These oscillations of going away and returning are normal and foundational in relationships.
Emotional Awareness of Rupture
- Emotional distress from ruptures is felt physically before becoming a conscious experience.
- Repair involves others providing comfort and signaling it's normal to experience these disruptions.
