Healing Through Conscious Relationship - with Sheleana Aiyana

Apr 4, 2018

Sheleana Aiyana, a writer and group facilitator, discusses the importance of 'Deep Work' and its impact on personal growth and relationships. They explore trauma, shadow aspects, and the power of conscious relationships. They also touch on topics like healing through expression, the Nice Guy phenomenon, and dealing with triggers in relationships. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the significance of support, community, and rewriting personal narratives for positive change.

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Introduction

00:00 • 3min

The Shift in Perception

02:51 • 14min

The Importance of Personal Growth in Relationships

16:27 • 28min

The Importance of Seeking Support and Community

44:06 • 12min

The Power of Community and Support

56:26 • 23min

Uncovering Truth and Rewriting Storybooks

01:19:21 • 2min

Obsession with Family Systems Therapy and Virginia Satir

01:20:55 • 2min

Exploring Personal Relationships and Future Events

01:23:01 • 5min

Sheleana Aiyana is a writer and group facilitator in Vancouver, BC and she joins me to discuss the implications and importance of doing whats called "Deep Work" - looking inward to explore our consciousness in order to reclaim some of the territory usually dominated by the unconsciouss.

In this episode we discuss the growing movement of women's and men's groups that are involved with deep work, and how they are affecting huge changes in the lives of their members.

Shelena and I candidly share our own relationship patterns as a way of showing what we are learning about how relationships can derail, and how to be in "conscious relationship".

Topics we cover in this episode:

Trauma and blocked emotions
How we unconsciously act out our trauma
"Shadow aspects" and how they show up
Why relationships are our biggest trigger
How relationships can offer a powerful catalyst for healing our wounds
Discipline of children through the withdrawal of love
Healing through expressing what hasn't been allowed
Needy-ness and Avoidance - two signs that you've got healing to do
Deep work as a gateway to healthier relationships
The Nice Guy phenomenon and how it affects men
Conscious Relationship and learning to be in compassion and understanding
Perseverance - The importance of staying in the game and moving towards your partner
Triggers - How to deal with triggering your partner's wounds
Shutting down when you're challenged - something that many men face with their partners
For men: moving towards your partner when fear wants you to pull away
Anxious and Avoidant types in relationships
Rising Woman Sisterhood: Transpersonal group-work, family systems work, and the fellowship of women.
The paradox of vulnerability
Shadow work and accepting both sides of your existence
How to unlock your gifts
How men can support women's work.
How to hold space for gender politics by doing your own work
Collaboration VS Opposition in gender politics
The masculine/feminine gender norms debate and how it can be a distraction from looking inward
The #MeToo movement and how we can use MeToo to further our own inner work
Sheleana's latest obsession: Satir Family Therapy
The best Men's group in Vancouver - The Samurai Brotherhood

Sheleana is a coach for women and relationships. Find her here
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