This podcast explores the psychology of ego in our 20s, highlighting the signs of an inflated ego and its impact on our behavior. It discusses the difference between ego and self-confidence, and offers insights on replacing ego with self-esteem and humility. The hosts emphasize the importance of practicing gratitude and being content with our own lives, rather than comparing ourselves to others.
Ego is driven by deep insecurity and can manifest itself as feelings of superiority, entitlement, and unfairness.
Recognizing the signs of an over-inflated ego, such as constantly needing to be right and judging others, can help individuals regain balance and self-awareness.
Deep dives
Understanding the concept of ego
The podcast explores the concept of ego and its significance in psychology. The host discusses how ego is often associated with feelings of superiority, entitlement, and unfairness. The origins of the ego are explored, including Freud's contributions to understanding its role in the mind. The ego is described as the part of us that balances the primitive instincts of the id with the moral standards of the super ego. The importance of having a balanced ego is emphasized, as well as the consequences of an over-inflated or misaligned ego.
Signs that your ego is in control
The podcast outlines six signs that indicate an over-inflated ego. These signs include constantly needing to be right, feeling dissatisfied and comparing yourself to others, judging others and feeling superior, struggling to manage failure, blaming others instead of taking accountability, and displaying arrogance and entitlement. These signs reflect the ego's defensive mechanisms and its attempts to protect our self-esteem and sense of self-worth. Recognizing these signs can help individuals identify when their ego is in control and taking steps to regain balance.
Distinguishing between ego and confidence
The podcast delves into the distinction between ego and confidence. While ego is driven by insecurity, comparison, and the need for validation, confidence is rooted in self-assurance, self-awareness, and stable self-esteem. The speaker highlights that ego is triggered by external factors and relational comparisons, while confidence is internally based and unaffected by the presence or opinions of others. Understanding these differences allows individuals to assess whether their actions and mindset are driven by ego or genuine self-confidence.
Shifting from ego to self-esteem and humility
The podcast provides practical tips for shifting from ego-driven behavior to a mindset of self-esteem and humility. These tips include recognizing that the ego is separate from our true self and within our control, focusing on our objectively positive qualities and strengths, embracing mistakes and laughter, treating others with kindness and compassion rather than judgment, and practicing gratitude for what we have. By implementing these strategies, individuals can reduce the influence of their ego and cultivate a healthier sense of self-esteem and humility.
In this week's episode we discuss the psychology of your ego and what its trying to tell us! Ego can feel nasty and entitled but it comes from a place of deep insecurity that we need to unpack before we can truly understand ourselves. We look at the 6 signs your ego is in control, where ego comes from and how to replace it with self esteem and humility. We also discuss why ego and self confidence are different things even though they sometimes look similar: how ego is insecure, inconsistent and relies on the perceived inferiority of others whilst confidence is stable, sure and kind. Remember, you are not your ego so in this episode we talk how to rein it in, accept it as part of who we are and move forward. Listen now.