BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko 186: Stop Chasing. See What Happens When You Let Go.
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Oct 11, 2026 A viral Las Vegas diaper mishap sparks a candid conversation about women, burnout, and the exhausting mental load of managing everyone else. Explore over-functioning, catastrophizing, control disguised as care, and the family patterns that keep capable adults dependent. The discussion also digs into boundaries, natural consequences, nervous-system overload, and what it really means to protect your energy.
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Stop Turning Inconveniences Into Emergencies
- Compare the size of your reaction with the actual size of the situation before treating it as an emergency.
- A child lacking necessary care requires action; a husband forgetting diapers does not.
Pause Before Picking Up The Load
- When an adult forgets something, pause before automatically picking up the load yourself.
- Waiting can reveal that someone else will step up and handle the responsibility without your intervention.
Over-Functioning Creates Under-Functioning
- Over-functioning and under-functioning reinforce each other: one person takes over tasks while the other gradually relinquishes them.
- Constant correction can create the dependency that later frustrates you.
