Luvvie Ajayi Jones, a two-time New York Times bestselling author and sought-after speaker, dives deep into the intricacies of friendships. She discusses building trustworthy squads and recognizing when to gracefully let go of draining relationships. Luvvie reflects on how our self-trust affects our ability to trust others, and shares her belief that friendships can be transformative across racial lines. With humor and insight, she emphasizes the importance of emotional safety and mutual care in nurturing genuine connections.
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Friendship Ambiguity
Friendships lack the clear expectations and agreements found in marriages.
This ambiguity can lead to misunderstandings and unmet expectations, making the author feel clueless.
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Defining Friendship
Define friends as people you're responsible for and can trust with your vulnerabilities.
View friendship as an active verb, a charging station, and a source of safety and support.
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Chosen Family
Luvvie Ajayi Jones emphasizes the importance of chosen family, especially for those with difficult childhoods.
She highlights that friendships evolve over time and life stages.
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In this book, Luvvie Ajayi Jones uses her honesty and humor to encourage teens to be troublemakers for good. The book helps young readers face and fight their fears, and start living their boldest life. It is divided into sections such as BE, SAY, and DO, guiding readers to get things right within themselves, use their voice for their greater good, and take action. This is the young readers edition of her New York Times bestseller 'Professional Troublemaker'.
Professional Troublemaker
The Fear-Fighter Manual
Luvvie Ajayi Jones
In this book, Luvvie Ajayi Jones shares her personal experiences and insights on overcoming fear and imposter syndrome. She provides a humorous and transformational guide on how to fearlessly pursue one's goals and create a life that is authentic, bold, and purposeful. The book is filled with her characteristic wit and warmth, making it both entertaining and inspiring.
I'm Judging You
The Do-Better Manual
Luvvie Ajayi Jones
I'm Judging You: The Do-Better Manual is a collection of essays that humorously critiques our cultural obsessions and calls out bad behavior in our increasingly digital world. The book covers topics such as toxic friendships, social media misuse, and serious discussions on race, feminism, and more. It serves as a handbook for living a life of integrity and authenticity, wrapped in humor and truth.
1. How do we build a squad of friends–people we can trust our truth and imperfection with, and who take responsibility for one another’s care?
2. How to know when it’s time to let a friendship go–and how we release one another without the hard feelings.
3. Why when we have a problem trusting others, it sometimes has to do with a lack of trust in ourselves.
4. Why Luvvie says her friends have rewired her brain, and answers the question: Can Black and white women really be friends?
About Luvvie:
Luvvie Ajayi Jones is a two-time New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and sought-after speaker who thrives at the intersection of humor, media, and justice. Her critically acclaimed books Professional Troublemaker: The Fear-Fighter Manual and I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual were instant bestsellers and established her as a literary force with a powerful pen. ProfessionalTroublemaker was just released in paperback.
She’s an internationally recognized speaker who takes on dozens of stages every year around the globe and has spoken at some of the world's most innovative companies and conferences, including Google, Facebook, Amazon, and Twitter. She is also co-creator of the #SharetheMicNow global movement and hosts her podcast, Professional Troublemaker.
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