The Dr. Psych Mom Show
with clinical psychologist
Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten What Does Avoidant Attachment Look Like During Dating?
Sep 14, 2025
Discover the complexities of avoidant attachment styles in dating. The conversation highlights how these individuals prioritize independence over intimacy, complicating relationships. Learn to spot red flags, so you don't feel like a constant pursuer. Self-reflection and therapeutic insights are shared to help navigate these dynamics, making it easier to understand both yourself and your partner. Tune in for valuable advice to enhance your romantic connections!
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Independence Comes First
- Avoidant partners prioritize independence, friends, hobbies, and work over the relationship.
- They often say things like "I want to be wanted not needed" and frame the relationship around their interests.
The 'I' Not 'We' Pattern
- Avoidant people talk about plans in terms of "I" not "we" and often must be dragged into relationships.
- Their ideal is low-intensity togetherness and overlapping activities, not deep one-on-one intimacy.
Inspect Their Family Template
- Check how your partner's family communicates about feelings and models relationships when meeting them.
- Use the parents' dynamic as a template to predict how your avoidant partner may treat you.