Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 554 - Persuasion or Coercion? Navigating Polyamory Under Duress
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Nov 4, 2025 Explore the complexities of polyamory under duress, a situation where external pressures complicate non-monogamous relationships. The hosts share personal stories illustrating how this can develop, highlighting signs that indicate someone might be struggling. They differentiate between persuasion and coercion, discussing the nuances of consent and emotional wellbeing. Recognizing the need for honest communication, they offer actionable steps to navigate these challenges and emphasize the importance of seeking professional guidance when needed.
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PUD Exists On A Spectrum
- Polyamory under duress (PUD) exists on a spectrum from temporary stress to serious loss of autonomy.
- Not all PUD is abusive; many cases are nuanced and situational.
Dating Continued Despite Discomfort
- Dedeker described dating someone who learned their partner was non-monogamous and stayed despite discomfort, which eventually ended the relationship.
- He also shared his own experience where nervous-system limits made non-monogamy unsustainable for a partner.
White-Knuckling Is A Red Flag
- White-knuckling through non-monogamy is a red flag of duress and lack of perceived choices.
- Feeling unable to speak up, leave, or ask for needs signals PUD risk.
