Becoming Whole Understanding and Healing the Mother Wound Part 1
Mother. Mommy. Mom. Momma.
When you were just a baby, your first smile was for her. And when she locked eyes with you and smiled back, something cemented deep down inside. As a child, seeing your emotions reflected back from your mom’s face was validating and connecting for you at a foundational level. That “mirroring” became an understanding for how you on how to move through relationships with yourself and others.
So, what if mom didn’t smile back because of her own depression or pain? What if that Mommy Mirror was broken and she couldn’t lock eyes with you? Parents give us a sense of themselves and in turn who we are. Since Mom is the very first relationship we have, there’s something even more powerful to that bond; for better or worse.
In this episode, Josh and Kit sit down to talk about Understanding and Healing the Mother Wound. The conversation is as delicate and intense as the topic. As an adult, whether you know it or not, you carry those needs still.
Listen first. Take notes the second time. Because when the Mommy Mirror is broken, it leaves behind pieces. We pray this two-part conversation will serve as a building block for you on your journey to “Becoming Whole.”
Highlights:
Mom is supposed to be foundational. Mom is supposed to be a secure source for the child. So, if mom’s not doing okay emotionally in this moment then I’ve got to take care of her in order to be okay. And plus, there’s not really enough room for me to deal with my own stuff.
If there’s something that we needed from our moms that God designed us to receive from our moms, or things we were designed to receive, when something goes sideways then it leaves us with a mark
Mom has a unique place because she’s that very first relationship with the child, she almost serves as a bedrock foundation under a child and if that’s shaky that can be a difficult thing for kids to reckon with.
Homework:
“MIRRORING” can be defined as the act of validation and connection through active reflecting.
Six Themes Related to Mother Wounds:
- Boundary Issues
- Not Trusting Your Own Feelings
- Not Being Able to Trust Others
- Being Over-Sensitive or Being Ultra-Reactionary
- Chronic Difficulty in Relationships
- Low Self-Esteem
Resources/Extras:
Genesis 1:27 God created man and woman in his image.
Still face experiment Dr Edward Tronick https://youtu.be/apzXGEbZht0
Matthew 23:37 “O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, but you were not willing." (NIV)
Luke 13:34 “Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing.” (NIV)
Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole
👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)