We Heart Therapy EP 103: What to Do When Clients Say “I Don’t Know” EFT Tips with EFT Trainer Lieven Migerode
Aug 11, 2025
Lieven Migerode, a Certified EFT Trainer from Belgium specializing in trauma and violence, joins Dr. Belle for a deep dive into the all-too-common client response of "I don't know". They explore the emotional complexities behind this phrase, reframing it as a gateway for deeper therapy. Migerode highlights the importance of a safe therapeutic environment, particularly for neurodiverse clients, and shares strategies for fostering open communication. The conversation also teases an upcoming book aimed at helping couples navigate violence in their relationships.
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Reframe “I Don’t Know” As Useful Feedback
- "I don't know" can be a helpful, wise answer that gives feedback to the therapist about safety and process.
- Reframe it as information rather than resistance to reduce therapist anxiety and pursuing behavior.
School-Child Example Of Withdrawal
- Lieven used a childhood school example: kids answer "good" then retreat with repeated parental questions.
- The kid says "I don't know" because they're tired and don't want to keep talking about school.
Not Answering As Self-Protection
- Clients may refuse answering because answering often invites more questions and feels risky.
- "I don't know" can be a protective strategy to avoid getting more assignments or scrutiny.
