Her Best Self | Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast, Disordered Eating, Anorexia, Bulimia, Orthorexia, Body Image, Food Freedom, Calorie Counting, Obsessive Exercise, Food Restriction EP 221: Present Over Perfect ~ How Food Obsession Steals Your Life (& 4 Strategies to Get It Back)
In this powerful episode, Lindsey explores how eating disorders and food obsession act as "time thieves" and "energy vampires," stealing your presence from the moments and people that matter most. She shares the life-changing realization that when we don't sacrifice for what we ultimately want, we become the ultimate sacrifice - and our relationships pay the price.
Key Takeaways🎯 The Real Cost of Food Obsession
- Eating disorders aren't just about food - they're mental energy drains that steal your presence from your own life
- The constant mental chatter about food planning, guilt, and rules exhausts you before your day even begins
- Your pursuit of food perfection is sacrificing your ability to be fully present with the people you love
💡 The Sacrifice Revelation "If you don't sacrifice for what you ultimately want, then you become the ultimate sacrifice."
- What you ultimately want: Connection, presence, energy for what matters, peace of mind
- What's actually being sacrificed: Time with your spouse, conversations with your kids, your ability to be fully present in your own life
🔄 The Present Over Perfect Shift Your family doesn't need a perfect you - they need a present you. Stop waiting to be worthy of love when you "figure out" the food thing. You're worth loving right now, struggles and all.
4 Practical Strategies to Reclaim Your Presence Strategy #1: The 3-Second Check-In- Throughout your day, pause and ask: "Where is my mind right now?"
- If caught in food thoughts during important moments, simply notice without judgment
- Ask: "What would it look like to be fully here right now?"
- Track for one day how often you catch yourself in food-related thoughts
- Make a mark on your phone each time you're planning, worrying, calculating, or obsessing about food
- Count them at day's end - this is how much life force is being redirected from what matters
- Choose one meal/snack daily to eat with complete presence
- Put phone away, don't plan next meal, ignore calorie counting
- Focus on taste, texture, satisfaction - practice being fully there
- When spiraling into food thoughts, immediately reach out to someone you love
- Text your teenager, call your spouse, hug your pet
- Redirect mental energy toward connection instead of obsession
Make dinner time device-free AND food-rule-free for your mind:
- No mental calorie counting or meal planning during family time
- Ask about everyone's day and really listen
- Share something about your day unrelated to food
- Practice being completely present with your family
Choose one person in your life and commit to being fully present with them for at least 10 minutes every day:
- Morning coffee with your spouse
- After-school time with your child
- Phone call with a friend or family member
- No phone, no food thoughts, no mental planning - just you, fully there
"Every moment you spend obsessing about food is a moment you're not fully living your life."
"Your kids don't need a perfect mom. Your spouse doesn't need a perfect partner. They need YOU. Present, engaged, fully there YOU."
"You are not your thoughts about food. You are a woman with purpose, with love to give, with a life that's happening right now."
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RememberStop sacrificing your presence for the pursuit of perfection. Your people need you here. Your life needs you here. You deserve to be fully present for your own beautiful, imperfect, real life.
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. Together, we're choosing presence over perfection, one moment at a time.
xo,
lindsey
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* While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.