Becoming Whole When Spouses Have Different Sex Drives Part 2
You are a sexual creature, created by a Holy God. Your sex drive has an ebb and flow. You have unique factors that contribute to the rise and fall of your libido. There’s a peace and confidence in that awareness.
If you’re married, remember the same holds true for your spouse - EXCEPT that their ebb and flow and drive and triggers may be completely different. It’s no wonder that 1 in every 3 couples struggle with problems associated with different sexual desires.
Couples are made up of two people with two different minds, hearts, and yes, different sexual patterns. Sexual compatibility is such a common issue but we don’t talk about it with the person who matters most.
Listen in as Josh and Kit carefully set you and your spouse up for a meaningful conversation. They’ll examine the role past wounds, comparison and other factors play in the bedroom.
Learning how to attain full sexual intimacy with your spouse is the goal on this next episode of “Becoming Whole.”
Highlights:
Letting another person see, embrace, touch and feel your body when you feel deep shame about the form of your body can be a deep wound that you have to work through in your marriage
to be sexual between husband and wife is to lower your boundaries the most profound way.
In a marriage, husbands and wives are different sexually. Just like they’re different in so many other areas of life but we don’t want to talk about it.
Homework:
Take some time to examine when and how you first learned about sex. Did it leave you with positive or negative feelings?
If Body Shame is an issue for you (as it is for so many people), try talking to your partner about the shame. “This is something that I’m dealing with…”
Recommendations: Find a good therapist with experience in sexual abuse trauma or maybe seek out Healing Prayer.
Resources/Extras:
Genesis Chapter 2
Books by Christopher West
Transcription:
Full Transcription Available here
Original music by Shannon Smith. Audio engineering by Gabriel @ DelMar Sound Recording.
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