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Raising Good Humans

S3 Ep 33: How to Cultivate A Healthy Sense of Achievement Within Your Kids

Aug 18, 2023
Jennifer Wallace, author of Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic, discusses the importance of mattering in raising successful children and fostering a sense of contribution. She also explores healthy and dirty fuel as forms of motivation for children, providing strategies for parents to identify and nurture healthy motivation.
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Quick takeaways

  • Children who have a high level of mattering, feeling valued for who they are, are more resilient and can navigate setbacks better.
  • Parents can promote healthy motivation by nurturing children's strengths, using healthy fuel, and providing affection and support during setbacks.

Deep dives

The Importance of Mattering in Healthy Strivers

The podcast episode explores the concept of mattering and its significance in the lives of healthy strivers. Mattering refers to feeling valued by one's family, friends, and community for who they are at their core, and being depended on to add meaningful value back. The episode highlights that children who have a high level of mattering are more resilient and can navigate setbacks better. It also discusses the negative impact of contingent mattering, where children feel they only matter when they achieve. The episode emphasizes that parents can promote mattering by focusing on small everyday contributions within the family, such as expressing love and appreciation beyond achievements.

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