Honeydew Me 229. Honey Archive: Stop Feeling Like Sh*t About Being Single with Shani Silver
Being single isn’t a waiting room and it’s definitely not a personal failure. This week, we’re diving into the archive and revisiting our episode with Shani Silver, writer, content creator, and author of A Single Revolution, to unpack the harmful narratives that keep single women stuck in shame, comparison, and “search mode.” Shani’s work challenges the idea that romantic partnership is the ultimate goal and offers a powerful reframe: your life is already worth celebrating right now.
We talk about how to stop centering dating apps, how to reclaim your time and joy, and why being single is not the problem... shame is.
We cover:
- Why singlehood isn’t a problem to be fixed. Shani unpacks how society pathologizes being single and why that’s BS.
- How to live a full, exciting life without a relationship. From travel to career to pleasure, we explore what it means to prioritize yourself.
- Why dating content fails single people. We talk about the toxic dating culture that keeps people chasing “the one” instead of feeling whole on their own.
- What it means to want partnership, but not suffer without it. Shani offers real talk on being open to love without letting it define your worth.
- How to stop treating singlehood like a temporary phase. Your life isn’t on pause. We explore how to fully engage with your present, not just your potential future.
- The emotional toll of romanticizing relationships. From internalized shame to feeling “behind,” we look at the stories that are hurting us and how to rewrite the shit out of them.
- Why single people deserve better content. You’re not unfinished. Shani calls out the lack of empowering, non-dating-focused media for single people and shares what she’s doing about it.
- Tangible mindset shifts to start enjoying your life now. Shani shares her go-to tools for reframing singlehood and finding joy without needing a plus-one.
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