Stop People Pleasing

Oct 28, 2025

Explore the hidden costs of people pleasing, which Radhi defines as self-abandonment masked as kindness. Unpack how the fear of rejection fuels this behavior and learn to recognize telltale signs of boundary violations. Discover practical scripts for saying no and the importance of clarity in communicating your needs. Radhi emphasizes the necessity of sitting with discomfort as you reclaim your authenticity, fraught with fears of others' reactions. Small steps can lead to profound freedom and healthier relationships.

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ANECDOTE

Host's Personal People-Pleasing Story

Radhi shares she has been a people pleaser her whole life and is currently in recovery.
She uses examples from small choices to bigger life decisions to illustrate the pattern.

INSIGHT

People Pleasing Is Self-Abandonment

People pleasing is not kindness but self-abandonment that drains your energy and worth.
Radhi says it makes you invisible and erodes trust with yourself and others.

INSIGHT

Kindness Versus Fear-Driven Pleasing

People pleasing often stems from fear and the desire to be liked, not from pure generosity.
True kindness flows freely, while people pleasing is fear-driven and transactional.

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Do you keep saying “yes” when every part of you wants to say “no”?
Are you exhausted from overgiving, overapologizing, and overextending yourself?
What if people pleasing isn’t kindness at all—but self-abandonment in disguise?

In this eye-opening solo episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi Devlukia unpacks the truth about people pleasing: why it feels like safety but actually chips away at your self-worth, your energy, and even your relationships. Radhi breaks down the hidden cost of constantly putting others first, how it disconnects you from your authentic self, and why being agreeable doesn’t actually bring you closer to people—it creates distance.

With honesty and compassion, Radhi shares practical steps to start breaking free from the cycle: how to set boundaries, clarify your capacity, and pause before you say yes. She also explores the hard truth that other people’s reactions are not your responsibility—and why your integrity matters more than their approval.

This episode is about rebuilding trust with yourself, honoring your limits, and showing up as the real you—without guilt, fear, or apology.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why people pleasing is rooted in fear, not kindness
How to recognize the physical signs that a boundary has been crossed
Practical scripts you can use to say no without overexplaining
Why resentment is your body’s signal that you’ve overextended
How to rewrite the old story: “I need to please to be loved”
Why doing less with the right intention matters more than doing more with the wrong one

If you’ve been disappearing into the version of yourself everyone else wants, this episode is your reminder that you are lovable, worthy, and enough—without having to earn it.

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