Setting boundaries in relationships with ADHD

Boundaries are limits based on our values — and a key part of good relationships. ADHD can come with low self-esteem and anxiety, which can get in the way of respecting your own boundaries in relationships. 

ADHD educator and marriage counselor Melissa Orlov explains what boundaries are and how ADHD comes into play. Plus, she offers tips on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries in relationships.

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Related resources

• ADHD in marriage: How it changed a relationship (Breon and Dan’s story)
• ADHD and trouble with personal boundaries in kids
• Melissa’s website, adhdmarriage.com

Timestamps

(04:28) What is a boundary?

(10:20) How do we figure out what our boundaries are?

(14:51) People pleasing

(20:45) How do we work on creating and evolving boundaries with a partner?

(22:16) Top three things to know, and some activities to get started

(24:42) Cate's Comment Corner

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