How To Confidently Talk About Sex & STDs With Alexandra Harbushka
Oct 30, 2019
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Dr. Aziz interviews Alexandra Harbushka, an expert on Herpes and other STDs, discussing the stigma surrounding STDs, different tests for Herpes, the importance of open and honest conversations about sex and STIs, the prevalence of STDs in ancient history, and how individuals can find growth and overcome challenges with a herpes diagnosis.
Prioritize sexual health, get tested for STDs and have open conversations with partners.
Differentiate between dating and having sex, have conversations about sexual health before engaging in sexual activities.
When disclosing herpes, establish trust, approach it confidently, and remember it doesn't define your worth.
Deep dives
The importance of taking control of your sexual health
It is crucial to prioritize your sexual health and take responsibility for it. This includes getting tested for STDs and having open and honest conversations with your sexual partners. It is essential to break the stigma surrounding sexual health and recognize that having herpes does not define your worth or limit your possibilities in life.
Dating without the assumption of sex
Dating does not automatically imply having sex, and it is important to differentiate between the two. You can go on dates without engaging in sexual activity. It is crucial to have conversations about sexual health before engaging in sexual activities with a partner. These conversations should happen when there is a connection and attraction, ensuring that both parties can make informed decisions and prioritize their well-being.
Navigating the conversation about herpes
When disclosing your herpes status to a potential sexual partner, it is recommended to establish a foundation of trust and understanding. It is not necessary to disclose herpes on a first date; instead, get to know the person and decide if you even want to pursue a sexual relationship. When you feel ready to take that step, have an open and honest conversation about your herpes status, approaching it from a place of confidence rather than guilt or shame. Remember, having herpes does not make you a bad person, and a mature and understanding partner will respect and support you.
Importance of having a conversation about sexual health
It is crucial to have open and honest discussions about sexual health before becoming sexually active. The podcast emphasizes the significance of this conversation, highlighting the lack of focus on sexual health in media, particularly in Hollywood portrayals of sex. The speaker suggests that both partners should have a talk about sexual health, including topics such as recent testing, birth control, and intentions. They acknowledge that women might find this conversation challenging due to concerns about being liked by their partner, but stress the importance of respecting oneself and ensuring both partners are aware of any potential risks.
The transformational potential of herpes diagnosis
The podcast explores the personal growth and mindset shift that can stem from a herpes diagnosis. The speaker shares an inspirational story from their support group, where a woman realized that her promiscuity was driven by the desire for love and attention. Contracting herpes prompted her to reevaluate her lifestyle and led to a more intentional approach to relationships. The episode also emphasizes the need to challenge the stigma associated with herpes, highlighting that it does not define a person's worth and should not limit their life experiences. The speaker encourages individuals to educate themselves about herpes and engage in open and informed conversations about sexual health.
Are you sexually active? How comfortable are you talking about sex with new dating partners?
Join Dr. Aziz as he interviews Alexandra Harbushka, an expert on Herpes and other STDs. With clarity, vulnerability, and humor, Alexandra shares how to navigate the world of dating, including conversations about sex, STDs, and more.
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