#376: The Couple Who Changed How I Relate: Lessons from the Godparents of Love
May 27, 2024
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Legendary relationship experts Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt discuss the transformative power of dialogue, emotional healing, and childhood influences in relationships. They dive into the importance of curiosity, self-awareness, and unconscious attractions, offering insights on creating deeper connections and personal growth. Tune in for a profound conversation that will reshape your approach to relationships.
Meaningful relationships are key to happiness, surpassing material pursuits.
Dialogue fosters understanding and collaboration in relationships, bridging divides.
Childhood experiences influence adult relationships, leading to patterns that can be recognized and addressed for mutual healing.
Deep dives
The Impact of Relationships on Joy and Satisfaction
Despite pursuing wealth and fame, individuals participating in a long-term study on relationships highlighted the significance of relationships as the key source of joy, surpassing materialistic pursuits. This underscores the essential role of meaningful connections in fostering happiness and fulfillment.
The Power of Dialogue in Relationships
Dialogue was emphasized as a transformative tool for communication and problem-solving within relationships, with references to historical figures like Socrates advocating for dialogue to understand diverse viewpoints. The practice of engaging in genuine conversations was noted to foster understanding, collaboration, and bridging divides, offering a potent solution to societal discord.
Childhood Influence on Partner Selection and Healing
The podcast delves into how childhood experiences influence adult relationships, leading individuals to unconsciously choose partners resembling caregivers who left emotional needs unmet. By recognizing and addressing these patterns, couples can embark on a journey of mutual healing and growth, transforming relational dynamics and fostering deeper connections.
Stages of a Relationship - Romantic Attraction to Real Love
The podcast discusses the three stages of a relationship, starting with romantic attraction where partners are initially drawn to each other unconsciously. This stage transitions into the power struggle phase where differences and conflicts arise as partners navigate living together. Finally, the podcast explores the concept of real love, where both individuals accept each other's realities, move from criticism to curiosity, and choose to become love rather than seeking it.
Transformation through Dialogue and Tipping Point Goal
The episode delves into the transformative power of dialogue in relationships and beyond, highlighting the shift from therapy-focused dyadic interactions to a broader cultural impact. By teaching safe conversation dialogue to a wide audience, the podcast aims to foster a global social movement towards collaboration and cooperation. The ultimate goal is to reach 2.4 billion people over 30 years, promoting values of personal freedom, equality, inclusion, celebration of differences, acceptance, and curiosity over judgment and polarization.
In this episode, I have the absolute honor of welcoming legendary relationship experts Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt. I had to pinch myself when I met them – it was a full circle moment for me. I found Harville and Helen’s work at a time in my life when I was deeply confused about relationships. I didn't know why I was so good at talking about everything but my feelings. I didn't know why I chose the people I chose or was the way I was. Harville and Helen’s work and their book gave me context to my personal relational patterns and a framework for relating better.
In this episode, Harville and Helen discuss the transformative power of dialogue in relationships and the importance of curiosity and open-mindedness. We explore the complexities of emotional healing and self-awareness in relationships, the concept of unconscious attraction in romantic partnerships, and how childhood needs and experiences shape adult behaviors and relationships. Tune in for a profound conversation that will surely impact the way you relate in your life moving forward.
Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and a social movement called Safe Conversations. Internationally respected as couple’s therapists, educators, speakers, activists, and New York Times bestselling authors, their 10 books, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! Helen was installed in the Women’s Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute. They have six children and eight grandchildren.
—Harville & Helen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/
—Harville & Helen’s Website: https://harvilleandhelen.com/
—Harville & Helen’s Website | Safe Conversations: https:/quantumconnections.com
—Harville & Helen’s Website | Imago Relationship: https://imagorelationships.org/
—Harville & Helen’s Book: Getting the Love You Want: https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/getting-the-love-you-want/
—Still Face Experiment: Dr. Edward Tronick: https://youtu.be/vmE3NfB_HhE?si=QivHWP9_jREexK3s&t=34
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Themes: Authenticity, Belonging, Breakups, Relationships, Boundaries, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Health, Codependency, Dating, Attachment Theory, Transformation, Conflict, Parenting, Mental Health, Dialogue, Curiosity, Childhood Experiences, Unconscious Attraction, Relationship Development, Self-Awareness, Self-Care, Collaboration
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