The Libido Fairy Podcast #114: WTF is Libido? (On The Actual Experts Podcast)
Nov 18, 2025
Hannah Deindorfer, a somatic intimacy coach and founder of the Libido Fairy platform, shares her expertise on libido and intimacy. She explains the difference between libido and sex drive, emphasizing libido as a complex interplay of hormones, mental health, and relationships. Hannah highlights how stress relief can enhance sexual experiences and offers practical advice for low-contact intimacy. She debunks myths around libido and aging, encouraging a compassionate view of desire as an evolving journey. Tune in to discover more about reclaiming and understanding desire!
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Personal Path To Becoming 'Libido Fairy'
- Hannah described early sexual experiences that were coercive and validation-seeking.
- She didn't orgasm with a partner until age 26 and lost libido at 26, which led her to study sexuality.
Libido Is Reward, Not A Drive
- Libido is the amount you want to have sex and is driven by reward, not a biological survival drive.
- Hannah says sex isn't a 'drive' like hunger; desire follows perceived reward from sexual activity.
Make An Intimacy Menu
- Create a menu of intimacy options that match your cycle energy and needs.
- Use low-effort acts like baths, hair brushing, reading aloud, or mutual masturbation when energy is low.
