276: I may want an open relationship. How do tell my partner? (ft. Dr. Joli Hamilton)

"I’m curious about open relationships. How do I talk to my partner about it?"

This is one of those thorny sex & relationship topics that a lot of us tread lightly around. We know it's sensitive, and if we're past the dating phase (i.e. we're married/in a long-term committed relationship), it can feel like the stakes are high. Like if we even raise the question, we could jeopardize this relationship that means a lot to us.

If you've ever wondered how to bring up possibly opening up your relationship without hurting or offending your partner, you're in good company. Many people who are interested in the concept of open relationships are at a loss when it comes to talking about it with their partner.

Here, we go over common mistakes people make when bringing this subject up with a relationship partner, and how to do it in a compassionate way -- a way that makes it clear this is an invitation, and not an ultimatum. (And obviously when it comes to good sex, dating, and relationship advice, ultimatums are rarely the answer!)

We also get into an entertaining story of how NOT to do it, which includes a hot night of clubbing followed by the shower from hell. ;)

Memorable quotes from this episode:

• “Monogamy is all I knew.”
• “Some people took this crush thing to another level.”
• “The thought, ‘I’m not enough’ exploded in his brain.”
• “Sexual autonomy is a thing some people want.”

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Mentioned on this episode:

Dr. Joli's work can be found here (www.jolihamilton.com/)

The "done for you" conversation referenced can be found here (www.jolihamilton.com/easy)

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