Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

How to Get On the Same Team: Relationship Mailbag

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Mar 31, 2025

Dr. Rick and Forrest dive into essential relationship dynamics, tackling how to balance sensitivity with directness. They discuss the importance of communication styles and the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior. Listeners learn strategies for bridging emotional processing gaps, setting healthy boundaries, and viewing challenges as collective issues. The conversation highlights the significance of teamwork in relationships and how small changes can foster deeper connections. Tune in for insights on transforming 'me problems' into 'we problems'!

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ADVICE

Giving Criticism

Separate tone from content when giving criticism.
Ask yourself if the criticism is worth the potential cost to the relationship.

INSIGHT

Shared Problems

View relationship issues as shared problems, not individual faults.
This fosters a "we" perspective, promoting collaboration and understanding.

ADVICE

Processing Emotions

Set clear time limits for processing emotions after conflict.
Communicate the need for space while assuring your partner of eventual discussion.

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Dr. Rick and Forrest answer questions focused on navigating common relationship conflicts, focusing on situations where people need to find a middle path between different needs. The discussion covers balancing sensitivity with directness, bridging differences in emotional processing speeds, setting healthy boundaries without anger, and understanding how childhood patterns influence adult relationships. Throughout, they explore how couples can move from seeing issues as "me problems" to "we problems," emphasizing the importance of being on the same team and strengthening connection.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:50: How do I know if I’m being too sensitive or my partner’s being too harsh?

13:30: I need space to process; my partner wants to resolve things immediately. How do we bridge the gap?

20:55: How do I determine whether or not a relationship problem is a dealbreaker?

33:00: How can I discern between rumination and useful anxiety?

41:40: How can I honor my need for self-protection while maintaining my naturally open heart?

49:15: If parents have certain problematic traits, are their children more likely to develop those traits as well?

56:00: Recap

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