Lies & ADHD with Ari Tuckman

If you live with ADHD you know the precarious line that you can walk between fact and fiction. Whether you’re tempted to lie to yourself about what you’re capable of in a given time period or lie to your boss about what you’ve accomplished this week, the instinct to make those around you feel better by smoothing the edges of reality is strong.

This week, we’re thrilled to have Ari Tuckman back on the show to talk about ADHD and lies, the situations that are most likely to cause you to push that button, and how to reframe your behavior and make amends if you’ve found yourself in uncomfortable, lie-inducing situations.

Links & Notes

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• Ari Tuckman, PsyD, MBA
• ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship by Ari Tuckman
• Tell Me No Lies: How to stop lying to your partner — and yourself — in the four stages of marriage by Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson

• (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast
• (01:40) - Support the Show: Patreon.com/TheADHDPodcast
• (02:44) - A message from the future with Nikki! Group Coaching is OPEN!
• (04:54) - Introducing Ari Tuckman
• (06:17) - Thinking about "people who lie"
• (10:12) - The ADHD-lie-pile-on
• (11:46) - What happens when you're lying?
• (12:53) - Cultures of mistruth
• (15:41) - Lying as a social contract
• (19:26) - Lies at work
• (22:53) - Rehabilitation
• (27:09) - Little white lies
• (29:04) - Radical Candor
• (30:34) - Developing an integrity practice
• (33:35) - Lies and fight or flight?
• (34:40) - Trust-inducing behavior
• (38:00) - Recommendations

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