U Up? Are Situationships Helping You Find Your Soulmate?
Oct 28, 2026
Can an imperfect relationship prepare you for something lasting? Jared and Jordana debate starter partners, the lessons hidden in situationships, and the risks of turning friendship romantic. They also tackle Halloween dating icks, a bitten muffin mystery, unclear labels, parental boundaries, and whether “mommy and daddy” is an unforgivable deal breaker.
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Why Experience Matters More Than A Perfect Checklist
- Relationships teach compatibility through friction, compromise, and learning how someone differs from you.
- Jared values partners who have loved, lost, and processed previous relationships rather than expecting a completely inexperienced soulmate.
Pursuit Does Not Always Mean Commitment
- Many men pursue based primarily on attraction, then decide afterward whether they want an actual relationship.
- That pattern leaves women wondering why sustained pursuit did not lead to commitment.
Dating Apps Can Hide Weak Social Skills
- Dating apps let mediocre men simulate extraordinary dating effort from home, weakening the incentive to develop real-world social skills.
- Jared compares app dependence to losing phone access in China and suddenly feeling less capable.